This topic came from a very weird conversation my wife had
with a co-worker. I am still amazed about how easy people talk about their sex lives,
but refuse to talk about who they will or have voted for. This young lady had just returned from
maternity leave and confessed to allowing her husband to have sex with a call
girl. It was a difficult pregnancy and childbirth. They had not had sexual
relations for four months, and he was about to get sentenced to another 8-10
weeks after the baby was born. So 8 ½ months pregnant, she sends him off to get
his rocks off with a professional provider of sex.
My wife thought this was genius. Based upon the
circumstances, she thinks she would be able to do the same for me. This is
where the argument began.
I personally would prefer to not have to pay for sex. I also
think, that given the opportunity that I could go out and get me some strange,
all on my own. Stating such brought about a laugh, which totally destroyed my
ego. Forcing me to retaliate with the truth. There are quite a few women in my life
that I think would be very happy to step into my wife’s bed for a night or two.
Ladies that flirt heavily at work, ex-girlfriends, her friends and a couple of
her co-workers have all showed some interest in me, and she knows this as well.
Me saying that made her angry, and me scared.
Eventually, I got the gist of it her argument. Having sex with
a woman that is not a prostitute, would be having a relationship with that
woman. Since a prostitute does not have to have an emotional connection to have
sex with you, but those women, I actually know, would have to have one. So the
act of sex of sex, by itself, is not exactly cheating, but an emotional
connection between husband and another woman is.
She then asked me about the reverse of that principle. She
asked me how I would feel, if she was spending time with a bunch of guys
flirting with her. I told her she could flirt all she wants, just as long as
she did not actually have sex with them. She could have a million men following
her Facebook, have pen pals from around the world confessing their undying
love, and have a stalker, but as long as there is no sex, it would not be
cheating to me.
So are my theories correct? Define what is cheating for you?